Category: Confidence

Knowledge Gained in Las Vegas

On January 31, 2022

In Confidence, Las Vegas, Spencer Barrick

Wow! I can’t believe it is February. The time has sped past with the holidays and then my trip with my BFF to Las Vegas. That was a little more and a little less than I was hoping, although I learned more about myself. Not too comfortable with it, but that is the point of challenging yourself, right?

So, I had this plan to see if I could catch the attention of Mr. Spencer Barrick and it failed, I think. At least I didn’t hear or see anything from him. We, my BFF and myself, interviewed random men asking to see their forearms to look for a specific sexy beast that could only be identified by a tattoo. We were able to get a few interviews and posted them on Instagram tagging you-know-who. Not as many as I was hoping to get, but maybe next time?

Honestly, it was very uncomfortable for me to approach them and the BFF would only engage after I started the conversation. Lesson 1: Stop caring about what others think and just have fun. Learn to loosen up.

There were some views on the posted videos, but the most was 10. Lesson 2: Learn how to tag the videos to get a wider audience. Should I use hash tags?

The main point of doing the interviews was to try to see if I could get a response from SB. I had thought that he would at least post something funny since he seems to have a good sense of humor. And I’ll admit, I was disappointed that it didn’t seem to work. Whether that was because he didn’t see them or didn’t want to respond, I don’t know. Lesson 3: Don’t let expectations take away from the fun of the moment.

I am sure there are more lessons, but I don’t want to dwell on them anymore right now.

How about some positive things?

Food: It is possible to eat a few naughty things on vacation and not gain back the losses. It could also have been from the miles we walked, but I was excited to see that I hadn’t gained any additional weight. Highly recommend Nacho Daddy and Nine Fine Irishmen.
Shopping: We went to the Premium Outlet stores and the jeans I found were 2-3 sizes smaller than what I was wearing just 3 months ago. Terribly exciting! Lots of different stores and was interesting.
Fremont Street: It was a blast on Sunday night. There were 3 different bands playing and lots of folks having a great time. I’ll need to rethink the Chippendales pictures next time or be a whole lot more prepared for them. John, I sure hope that you get your stuff back from you ex. Here’s a tip for you, if you are trying to get with someone, don’t start off the conversation with “I am 2 weeks out of a 5 year relationship”.
Circa Casino and Hotel: New location near Fremont. For $20 you can use the pools on the roof. If you talk nicely to the security guard and smile, he’ll let you go up and look for free. Warning for those with height issues\fears, the escalator ride is very long and high. I don’t know if it was worse going up or coming down. The view was worth it!
The Strip: Of course, it was gorgeous, especially at night. All the lights and the Bellagio fountain shows. Going to see how to get better shots at night with my fancy camera.
Uber Drivers: Most of you were awesome. There was that one guy that talked in Spanish on his headset for the entire ride, but everyone else was friendly and had some good stories to share. And you had some good advice on places to visit and things to experience.

The weather was wild. As long as the sun was out, the temperatures were fine. But, if the clouds rolled in and the wind started blowing, it was freezing. Then the sun would come out again and things were fine. Even more erratic than Oregon weather.

Came up with some things we would like to do next time. Did you know there are like 5 national parks near Las Vegas? That is plan for next time, but we were told to plan that at the end of September because of the heat.

Took COVID tests when we got back and we were negative, so that was good.

Overall, we had a good time. Looking forward to the next trip.

Definitely an Obsession Now

By Editor

On December 7, 2021

In Confidence, Damon Dice, Porn, Spencer Barrick

So, I think I might have passed the point of obsession with Mr. Spencer Barrick. I listened to a podcast interview he did with Girls On Porn. I love the tagline of “the good GOP”. Come on, you know that’s funny. If you are reading this, you are most likely not a Republican…

So, this was just a standard interview with questions about how he got started and all of that. But, holy shit… I haven’t listened to all of his interviews cause that would be stalkerish which I’m not. And I want to space them out to savor them individually. Nevermind…

OK, yes, the interview. It can be found here: Girls on Porn – Romantic with Damon Dice on Stitcher. Although I don’t think that title is accurate. That interview was all Spencer Barrick. He was personable, intelligent, down to earth, good humored, etc. Combine that all together and it was hot. Like volcano hot. And that was just listening to his voice over an internet link. I shudder to think what it would be like to have been in the same room. Wow! I need a few deep breaths…

Is there anything sexier than an intelligent guy with a sense of humor? Well, an intelligent guy with a sense of humor and smells good is pretty high up there on the sexy scale. But it’s hard to determine if he smells good or not from a podcast. And it might be a little awkward to attempt to sniff someone after meeting them. Assuming I ever get that close, I’ll have to figure out how to do that subtlety.

Ok, I am going to bring up the other article that had a positive impact on my approach to how I am living my life. It’s 8 Easy Steps To Become More Attractive – P.S. Good Times (psgoodtimes.com) I think easy might be a matter of perspective, but at least they are broken down into very doable steps.

Make Direct Eye Contact – Got this. Studies show that 85% of what we communicate is done with body language before we even say anything. I agree this is very important.

Wear Clothes That Highlight Your Body Shape – I think this is a challenge, especially for woman. Advertising and other social influences will try to sell a certain look that just doesn’t work for everyone. Personally, I like to be sure that I have pretty and sexy bras and underwear. Makes me smile even if no one can or will see it. Although I have to admit that I have a habit of wearing mens jeans because they seem to last longer. Recently, I actually bought some womens jeans. Now just need to get up the courage to wear them.

Spend More on Scents and Oral Hygiene – Can’t disagree with this either. I would caution to be sure that you don’t take the scent too far. Folks want to be able to smell you when you are close, not a few feet away. And if your teeth are clean, you feel more confident to smile.

Hydrate More and Put on Some Sunblock – And another obvious tip and very easy to do. Just need to not allow yourself to become swayed by the glowing tan ideal that is used to sell so many things. Got this handled. Also, who doesn’t like the smell of sunblock in general. Reminds me of the ocean and beach and sun and shirtless men. Need I really say more?

Always Say Hello – This tip is interesting as the workforce has moved to more telecommuting options and less in person interactions. I think that greeting folks over a conference call is even more significant than in the past. I also try to use someone’s name, if I can remember it. And smile!

Invest in Your Shoes – Ok, this one makes me chuckle. I know that I look at shoes cause I just like them, but do men really check out other men’s shoes? Or women’s? I’ve always heard that you should take care of your feet, but wear cool shoes to get attention is a new one. But, if the person that wrote this checks out shoes like I do, they might just be my soulmate.

Be the Challenge People Want – I can completely understand this. Folks will appreciate someone\something more if they have to earn\work for it. This also shows that you have confidence in yourself. And honestly, who doesn’t like to be chased a little now and then. Not down the street, but you know what I mean. Who doesn’t want to feel appreciated and valued?

Cultivate a Sense of Humor – So very true. Laughing is good for the soul and relieves stress. Although I would caution to be careful with self-deprecation humor. Lots of things can be funny without someone feeling uncomfortable.

Similar to the first article, I like this one because it makes things sound achievable for everyone. And puts things in categories that make it easy to tackle them. If it is true that it only takes 3 weeks to change a habit permanently, than both the articles on the PS Good Times site seem like a good place to start. And I am on a good track to be making some good changes.

Obsession

By Editor

On December 4, 2021

In Bucket List, Confidence, Damon Dice, Spencer Barrick

Everyone has at least one. It might not reach the level that it could be considered an obsession. Right now, mine would be Spencer Barrick. You should already know who this is if you have read the other posts, although according to my site numbers, I am thinking my BFF is probably the only one.

Anyway.. He is an adult performer with the stage name of Damon Dice. Yes, I know, I could just say porn, but adult entertainment sounds more sensual, doesn’t it? Like getting intimate versus fucking. I agree, there is definitely a time to use each one to strike the desired mood. See what happens when Damon is mentioned? Just give me a moment to get back what I was thinking.

So, after discovering DD, I found myself looking for information about Spencer. If you are curious, his Instagram account is @SpencerMichaelBarrick which is fairly PG. For more racier content, you can check out his twitter account, SpencerMBarrick. Or just a general search in google will bring up thousands of sites and videos.

One link I found interesting is a podcast that he did in September which he posted on his Instagram account. It can be found here: ‎Well Connected with KrisMo and Gbills: Episode 65- Spencer Michael Barrick aka Damon Dice on Apple Podcasts. The part I liked the best was the explanation of why he decided to put his social media in his name rather than his persona. He has watched many different performers suffer from type casting and losing their unique personalities. I was impressed as how succinct that was because I think of Spencer and Damon as two different people. Don’t misunderstand me. Damon is hot AF, but in a one night stand or booty call buddy way. Spencer, on the other hand, is someone I would really like to get to know personally and, maybe, hang out. So, Spencer, if you are looking for another friend, message me.

How I like thee, Spencer, let me count the ways.. Ok, not really, but…

So, just to be crystal clear, I haven’t met or talked to him. All my opinions are based on information I have found on the internet including Instagram, Twitter, interviews, and posted information on websites. I will admit that I could have filled in things with what I wanted, but who doesn’t? Even if I am completely off base, my ‘fantasy’ has encouraged me to be brave enough to make some life changes. I feel like that is a win, so let me fantasize.

I think the article that started it all for me was 8 Tips For You To Be More Confident – P.S. Good Times (psgoodtimes.com). I was at the right point in my life to really take most of it to heart. I don’t know if Spencer wrote it, but just let me pretend, okay?

Here are the main topics:

Get Rid of Self-Limiting Beliefs and Practices – Essentially, believe in yourself and just do it. Got it.

Improve Your Body Image – Workout, lose weight, get more sleep and you’ll look better which will make you feel better. Yep. I can say this is true cause I have been doing it. Eating more fruits and vegetables. Cut out almost all pre-processed food and fast food places. Limit the amount of beef and pork in favor of turkey, chicken, and seafood. Drink more water. My BFF and I keep each other more active with gym visits, walking, and yoga. I feel so much better and have started to see the difference on the scale and how my clothes fit.

Raise Your Curiosity – Ask more questions and explore. This wasn’t expected advice, but okay, I can do that.

Stop Comparing Yourself to Others – Self explanatory and incredibly hard to do. I know I struggle with this. My therapist says, “What others think about you is none of your business.” As I use this, especially in self-talk, I feel more willing to try things that I haven’t done before.

Set a Series of Small Goals and Work Towards Them – Create a list and do it. I’ve got this one. Created a bucket list for myself and have completed one (more ear piercings) and have the other one scheduled for the 16th (getting a tattoo). I have another blog written about my list, but haven’t published it yet. I like creating lists and crossing things off since it makes me feel like I am getting things done.

Give and Accept Compliments – Again, pretty straight forward. I have no issues giving out compliments, but do struggle with accepting them. What can I say, but working on it.

Listen to Some Music – I’ve never associated this with confidence, but I know that the type of music can definitely influence your mood. As I work, I listen to music and have tried to expand to different genres. It helps time pass quicker and I feel more upbeat in general. Maybe that is how it can effect confidence?

Overcome Your Fears and Doubts – A couple of favorite quotes from this section, “You’re the sperm that won” and “until you accept that you are an exceptional human being who deserves to feel good, none of these tips will matter”. In other words, just do it. This is like the final pep talk of the entire article and I like it.

Like I said, I was in the right frame of mind and at the right point in my life to read this. It suddenly all made sense and was something I could and wanted to do. I will occasionally read the article to motivate myself if I feel like I am losing focus or need some inspiration.

There is another one on the same site with more tips on how to be more attractive. There is a mention about shoes which makes me chuckle. I mean, I look at women’s shoes cause I just like shoes, but do men really look at shoes that other men are wearing? Or do they just look at shoes women are wearing? In my opinion, the most unattractive shoes are things like flip flops that make that smacking sound as someone is walking. A woman can be made up fabulously, but then she walks with sucking-smacking sound. Not attractive, unless maybe you are into that. Maybe there is something about shoes…